Cooking with Personality

My name is Jessica, and I am a control freak. *All: Hi, Jessica.*No, this is not Control Freaks Anonymous. This is my life. Being a control freak has its perks. The sink doesn't pile up, nor does the laundry basket. Our budget is air tight. Any kind of progress can make me happier than a kid with an ice cream cone. It also has its downsides. It makes cooperating with people challenging- not saying I can't, don't, or wont, sometimes it just takes some effort. This coupled with the fact that I have self-typed myself as an INFJ Meyers-Briggs personality type, means that I am a "bossy-martyr". I crave order, but then go out of my way to help people create dis-order. I'll ask something to be done a certain way, then feel guilty that I even asked. I am also stubborn. You know who else is stubborn? Derek. Derek also suffers from pretty bad ADHD, meaning he has to concentrate harder than I do to do normal every-day tasks. We also have different learning methods. I am lucky I guess, because I learn well any of the 4 ways (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic, and Read-Write) whereas Derek is extremely and singularly visual.All of this makes it quite challenging to cooperate with each other and teach each other new things. Take cooking for example. I want things to be done my way. He wants things to be done his way. If we try to work on the same thing together, we blow up and someone ends up angry. We have learned that if we each work on a separate aspect of the meal, we can actually function quite effectively as a team. Friday night we had our first date night in the new house. Derek cooked me a filet and him a ribeye. I made salt rubbed baked potatoes and broiled asparagus. It was a delicious meal and we felt very proud of ourselves! This morning he made the bacon, and I made us pancakes. After 4.5 years of being together, I think we have finally figured out how to cook together without pissing each other off. *WIN*We have now been married for just over 5 months. It finally feels like we are getting into the swing of things. We know what our expenses are, and how much we bring in now, so were not quite as worried about money. We are still learning how to manage our time. It's kind of depressing when you think about it. You study your life away for the 16+ years that you're in school, then you find a job, thinking you'll have money to be able to do what you want to do now. But then you get all these things like a house and a car, and you have bills, and you work all day. Yes you have the money. But now you don't have the time. You literally have to live for the weekend, because after work, there's dinner and laundry and dogs to be fed and walked. I literally have no idea how couples who both work can have children. Some people have children AND pets!! HOW?!?!? It doesn't seem possible, much less enjoyable. Anyways, back to what I was saying. We are getting in to the swing of things. Oh! And we decided we will only be in our house for a year. :)The no yard, and no garage thing is wearing on us. We will do some updates (not too many) in this house this year, and sell it next spring/summer. The comparable houses around us are selling for almost 15k more than we paid, so I'm not worried about losing money by selling so quickly. We also just want to move out of the city. We thought it would be a great commute, and super fun to be near things to do. HAH. Traffic is unbelievable. I know it will be everywhere here, but living right in the city SUCKS. We also aren't enjoying living in a townhouse. Our neighbors out front watch us take the dogs out. Our neighbors out back watch us on our deck. Our neighbors across the way bring their dogs to our side yard and give us nasty looks when we walk the girls out to potty and they see the other dogs and freak out. We have no time to do the fun things we live near, anyways. Our next house will have all the things we compromised on when we bought this one. Maybe not commute for me, but hopefully by then I can work from home most of the week by then ;) Progress man. Always moving forward. Now, it's time for ice cream. Luckily I don't have to cook that.Thanks for reading!Love, Jess